Dating – Communication Is The Key

Sometimes when I read some questions posted by people on dating on forums, I find curious phenomena. They all discuss their problems, their questions and everything about dating from others, but they don’t ask their dating partner about what should be done. I wonder that it is like this – a child is crying and the mother posts on the net that my child is crying, what should I do? Why not ask the child? Similarly most of the issues of dating can be easily sorted out if we ask our partner. Let us find out more.

Are you confident about your dating partner?

Are you confident about your relationship and your partner? If you are sure about your choice of dating partner than most of the problems can be solved. Whatever may be the issue, ask him/her. Sometimes people get baffled with straight queries, but once they realize that you are very honest and open about your dating relationship, they will love it.

Why fear in dating?

People fear that a small wrong step can spoil the dating and they will have to begin searching again. This is not true. Fear kills your natural behavior. Fear will make you very guarded in your dating. Please stop fearing. Sky will not fall. Be natural and worry not. If you are good and your dating partner likes you, everything will end Ok.

Dating and communication – Good communication is the key to success. Talk and listen as much as possible. Don’t hide feelings. Express them. Don’t hide fears, talk about them. Don’t hide desires; express them and you will get real satisfaction.

Dating – Be Prepared For Getting Hurt

Many of us hate dating for all the trouble it involves. You never know what kind of person will your date be? You have some clues, but as you know more about him/her, your enthusiasm dips. You had never asked for such a dating partner. There is nothing common between both of you and as you have more dates, you start thinking that you don’t like this person. He/she may not be well groomed, or may be always coming late, talking few things that you don’t understand and this all creates confusion in your mind.

How do I say no now and begin with another date. The same process has to be repeated. It all is so tiring. In the beginning, we are full of enthusiasm, but after few experiences, the enthusiasm wanes. Tiredness takes over us. Let me forget dating for a while and focus on my career/studies. This dating frustrates me totally. I would rather live alone and do better. I am tired and confused. You may not alone thinking all this. This situation is not very uncommon.

Can one stop dating altogether? Very few can do that. We need a partner to fulfill us. We need somebody to share the life. The loneliness can be worse. What is to be done? If you are encountering repeated failures, please give yourself a break for few days. Think about what all went wrong. Whether your choices were wrong or your expectations were not clear to you? Find out more about what you want and how can you attract someone who has those qualities. Forget the past failures. Clean the slate and restart.

Dating – Are You Shy With Opposite Sex?

Many of us are shy talking to the opposite sex. That takes us no where. We are scared of talking to any person of opposite sex. Something happens that stops us. Why do we get scared? We are not scared of talking to persons of our own sex. We are confident about ourselves. We have enough self-esteem, and we value ourselves as desirable. Then why? It is as if there is a switch in the mind that is switched off and says no when it comes to talking with persons of opposite sex.

What can be done about this? This problem has to do with our mind. Our mind tells us that we are not worthy. We may be rejected. We may be laughed at. Our mind warns us to defend ourselves from this and says no – you are not to approach anyone from the opposite sex. This is the mechanism of mind. Fight or flight. In this case, we resort to flight. But with this running away, we will never get a desirable partner. We will always remain alone and only wistfully watch other couples going around. So what should we do?

The very first step in such cases is to evaluate our self and compare ourselves with our friends. Are we as smart as they are? Are we as intelligent as they are? Are we as confident as they are? Are we as presentable as they are? Is our personality equally good? On most of these issues you may find that you are scoring more points than your friends. So one thing is established. You are a desirable person. If your friends are not shy, why are you? Gather the strength and approach persons of opposite sex with confidence. Don’t worry about rejections. There can be many reasons for that. Approach smartly and you will surely get some one good to date. Good Luck.

Dating-Habits for Successful Dating

Every time I talk to a guy who tells me his dating experience, I discover he’s making the exact same mistakes most guys do, dating mistakes that kill his chances of successfully dating sexy women. Dating can be an absolute nightmare for some people. Whether you have been dating for years, getting back in the game, or just starting out, you could always use a bit of dating advice.

1) Pay attention to her and listen.

Most guys try to impress sexy women by talking all through. Sexy women have heard it all before. But, if you ask her about herself, shut up and listen, and display a SMALL degree of interest, she will begin to wonder why you’re not slobbering all over her. She’ll want to discover more about you herself… now you’re a challenge, and sexy women love challenging guys. Why? Because they rarely meet one.

2) Ask questions.

Come up with a list before you leave the house, i.e., How did you get into that line of work? Where did you go to school? Have you seen the new Tom Cruise movie? And so on. If a woman tells you about her weekend at the yoga center, and you know absolutely nothing about yoga, just ask her what she likes about it, how she got into it, etc.

3) Compliment the other person.

Show sincere appreciation, so find something you like and mention it. You may be freaked out by the idea of complimenting a woman on her soulful eyes, so mention her watch, dress, hairstyle, or even her shoes. No need to go overboard: “Nice shoes,” will do it.

4) Be yourself.

Exaggerating or boasting your credentials, successes, etc will only make the woman lose interest. Make the other party feel at home so that she does not feel pressured to impress or lie to you. Sincerity is the best policy. Nobody feels more comfortable around people who are genuine and sincere.

5) Give your date the royal treatment.

Buy her some flowers, buy her dinner and make her feel special. Show her that you value her company. Women loved to be showered with attention and pampered by her man. For the subsequent date, Cook up a meal at home and spend the evening watching movies or some other activity such as a board game. The meal most likely will be better than at a restaurant.

Enjoy dating while you can and live life to the fullest. You’ll attract women who are looking for someone special for a change.

In Your Success

Dates Need Adequate Product Safety Labeling

Such consumer oriented labeling as “Warning: this date may be hazardous to your emotional health” or “Lifetime unconditional love guarantee” should be easily visible on all new dates. Unfortunately the only labeling you may find on your next date may be a patch of material that says “Polo” or “Dockers.” This, however, is insufficient data and fails to give even the slightest clue regarding:

* what they are made of,
* if exposed to hot water whether they will shrink or need one, or
* if they will wrinkle, fade or run from commitment.

So how do you know what you are getting into or if your potential partner will even fit your needs? How do you know if your relationship is destined for the recycle shop or if it is durable enough to weather many seasons of the heart? Although you can never take all the risk out of relationships, what you can do is attempt to put the odds of success more in your favor. Potential mates don’t come with adequate product safety labeling but there are recognizable signs, “stop signs” and “warning signs”, that can let you know if the “Joe Camel” you are going out with is potentially dangerous to your emotional health. These signs and signals can alert you to potential problems that can lead the unaware down the road to relationship ruin. Some of the possible “stop signs” and the potential relationship problems that they may be warning you of include:

STOP SIGN or WARNING SIGN and POTENTIAL PROBLEM

– Your date becomes very angry over little things. His anger seems disproportionate to the event. He may be a rageaholic. He may have stored lots of past anger that he will eventually aim at you.

– He is extremely critical toward himself, puts himself down. He seems to be an extreme perfectionist. In time that criticism will be directed toward you too. He may expect the unreasonable.

– He bounces checks, has credit problems, unpaid parking tickets, is always late, and makes commitments then breaks them. You’re not dealing with a grown-up. You may be signing up to be his Mommy. You can’t fix him!

– Your date can’t have fun without drinking. He structures his social activities and free time around bars. He’s a potential alcoholic and he may also be addicted to other substances.

– Your date frequently flirts with other women. He makes suggestive comments to your friends and likes “men’s clubs”. He may be a sex addict. You’ll never feel secure. He could be unfaithful and unavailable emotionally.

– He has no long-term friends, few acquaintances and no long-term relationships. Forget the excuses, this is someone who is unable to bond with others. You won’t last long either.

– He is an emotional wreck. He seems to desperately need someone to heal his broken heart and help him get his life back on track. When you’ve exhausted yourself nursing him back to health, he won’t be there for you. That’s not his role. He’s the victim.

– Your date avoids talking about his past, especially his childhood. He says “what’s over is over” and “I just don’t think about it.” He could be hiding major unresolved emotional problems from childhood. Those problems will surface with anyone with whom he gets close.

– He has just ended a several year relationship. He says he is over her and ready to start dating again. Rebound alert! He may want to be ready to date but probably isn’t. He may yet go back to his ex- partner.

– Your date is uncomfortable with the idea of marriage counseling. He insists that the two of you can handle any problem that might come up. If a major problem does emerge, he won’t be open to help. He may be unable to face problems or even talk about serious issues. Look out!

Ignoring these “stop signs” and the warnings that they signal can create huge relationship problems. Denying, minimizing, rationalizing, or in some other way making excuses for the other person is usually a form of self-deception. This is a way that people often set themselves up for some very painful consequence.

It is not always easy shopping for the love of your life. The product safety labeling isn’t prominently displayed. But there are warning signs, stop signs and behavioral tags that tell the truth about what they are made of.

Date Ideas – Top Romantic Ideas for Couples

Don’t waste another second stressing over what you need to do and where you need to go on a date. We’ve compiled a list of sure fire winners.

1) Prior to a date…stake out a nice secluded location near a park, beach, lake, rose garden, or “special place”…and leave a single stem rose along with a letter telling your sweetie how much they mean to you. After you’re done with dinner, take your date to the special place where the rose and letter are. Let them stumble upon it.

2) Take your sweetie back to where the two of you first met or had your first kiss. Take along a video camera and interview them about that first day.

3) Take a trip to the beach or lake and have a picnic by the water. Afterwards, take a long walk along the shore. When the sun starts to set…throw down a blanket and watch it as you’re sitting side by side.

4) Tell your sweetie that you’ve planned a surprise date. Instruct them to show up at your house dressed to impress at a certain time.

Greet them at the door in your classiest outfit. Have food from their favorite restaurant (order takeout) on the dining room table. Have your living room set up as a dance floor with candles all around. Have your favorite love songs playing in the background.

5) Pretend you’re an old married couple. Go to the grocery store together and buy ingredients for the full course meal the two of you are going to make. After dinner, you guys can snuggle up on the couch and watch rented movies.

6) A treasure hunt with you as the treasure. Tell your sweetie to meet you at a pre-arranged location (but don’t tell them what they’re about to do). When they get there…have a letter or note waiting for them that explains the treasure hunt. Give them directions that lead to the next clue. Do this about 4-5 times. Leave lollipops and chocolate kisses and gifts at each location. When they finally get to you, be waiting with a rose. After this…take them out to dinner or lunch at their favorite restaurant.

7) Make a photo album of yourselves. Get all decked out in your best clothes and go to your town’s landmarks and have passersby take your picture. Get the film developed in double exposures at a one hour photolab. Take the pictures and make his and hers photo albums.

8) Drive-in movie. Though they’re hard to find…track one down.

9) Pretend you’re a savvy swinging couple. Get dressed up: her in a dress….him in a coat and tie. Have dinner at a posh or fancy restaurant. Afterwards, go for a romantic walk in a local rose garden.

Date at Work, but Work at Dating: Office Romance Rules for Dating Co-Workers

If you’re like every other workingwoman (or man) who is dedicated and hard working, your commitment to work makes it nearly impossible to meet anyone outside of work. You’re probably not just a nine to five worker – you’re that successful someone who works extra hours and weekends, and is trying to get ahead to be successful. And you know what that makes you? Sexy!

Both men and women are attracted to people who are confident, passionate and focused, with interests and areas of expertise. Who wouldn’t be? Think about it-and there isn’t an easier, simpler or more convenient place to meet them than at work.

Date at Work – But Work at Dating

Even though it’s often advised against, dating people you work with makes practical sense – after all, we spend so much of our lives in the office, there’s often no other way or time to meet anyone else. But you have to be extra smart about your choices, and take special precautions if you’re going to venture into an office romance.

Water Cooler Gossip

The one overriding warning worth heeding–the one that should dictate all of your actions and words–is this: People talk. No matter how friendly your co-workers are, or how tight-lipped the object of your affection seems, secrets are almost always spilled, one way or another, whether accidentally or intentionally. Translation? Say nothing and do nothing that you do not want everyone else to know about. This means no chit-chat with the girls at the water cooler about his size or performance, and no pillow talk with him about how much you loathe your boss, and can’t wait to take over his or her job. There’s too much at stake, like your livelihood to take risks, and there’s too much to lose, like a potentially great love, not to give it a shot.

The Rules About Dating Co-Workers

1. Don’t mix business and pleasure on company time. Agree to date out of work hours, but don’t turn a business lunch into a romantic lunch.

2. If you’re a supervisor or employer you must stay fair. Don’t give someone you’re dating better work or pay, and don’t punish someone you’re breaking up with by giving him or her worse work or pay. Otherwise, you may find yourself on the receiving end of a lawsuit.

3. Make sure he or she is actually single. If they’re not — then keep personal remarks at work limited to sports, the weather and the kids. Don’t gripe or listen to gripes about a spouse. “I’m sorry, I’m not comfortable talking about your wife. I want to keep our relationship all business because I value us as co-workers,” is all you need to say and do.

4. Don’t Boast. Your co-worker boyfriend or girlfriend may look like Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie, and you may be so pumped up that you’ve got a hot date with the hottie — but keep your feelings to yourself — and your friends outside of work. Work gossip is inevitable, but you must practice good behavior by keeping the water cooler talk to work and the weather.

5. Don’t Make Out At Work. Keep all affection outside of office parameters. It’s okay to meet at the office, but don’t smooch at the office.

6. Don’t Have Love Spats At Work. If things weren’t great the night before, don’t bring your disappointment to your staff meetings — no pun intended. You will have to practice wearing two hats — even if you’re mad, don’t put the kabosh on their comments at the Monday morning meeting and act out your frustrations at work.

7. Do Put Rumors To Rest. If you hear gossip, don’t fuel the fire by denying the truth. Everyone finds out that you’re dating eventually. While you should not announce your relationship, you can say, “Yes, we’re dating. We’re both single adults and we’re working very hard to keep our social life separate from our work life.” And smile.

Both dating and working are natural parts of life, and it’s natural to become attracted to people you work with. If you’re both single and available, go for it! But be impeccable with your behavior and your work. You’re going to be under more scrutiny in this relationship than you would be if you were dating someone you didn’t work with.

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